Neighbor Continues to Disturb Me by Slamming His Door

06-12-2017, 08:12 PM

This past Sunday at about 9 am i was violently shook out of my sleep by the downstairs neighbor slamming the door. When i say violent i mean the slam was so hard that it made my bed shake and my body shake. My body shook from the vibration not my nerves. After it happened my nerves kicked in and i was shaking like a tree branch in a storm it was THAT bad. I'm a grown man and very little scares me but THAT was incredible.

So i got up washed my face and i'm the bathroom hearing her yell and argue with her husband. At that point i said to myself i'm leaving going to sit at the park it was a beatiful day and calm my nerves.

As i was leaving she was out loading her car and i stopped and said "excuse me can you stop slamming the door you slammed that door so hard you shook me out of my sleep"

Her response " f you why don't you mind your f'in business" i responded back with a tirade as i was driving out. I said i am minding my business in my apartment and you slam that door like a f'in animal. She responds with the middle finger and "gfy" and more middle fingers and says "i'm calling the cops you are harassing me"

WOW

So cops come she's standing in the middle of the driveway "here they come" and when they pull up she runs up to the window of the cop. First thing she says "i just got done working a 12 hour shift" and i didn't hear anything else and walked over to my front porch to wait for the cop. She was talking to that cop for a good 10 minutes about god knows what a bunch of lies ofcorse.

So anyway cops eventually come to me and listen to what i said and take off nothing is done as usual.

What would you have done if you experienced a door slam like that and your heart almost left your body? Honestly i thought about getting medical treatment after that no joke.

06-12-2017, 08:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Harpaint View Post

If this was the only time it had occurred, I wouldn't do anything. If it happened again I would speak to the property manager.

There were about 3 previous issues with these neighbors of them harassing me. Ever since i had a problem with their pitbull running off the leash up to me and my family scaring us they have a grudge. They never apoligized for that and actually banged on my door about it and flat out said "if you don't like it you can get the f out"

They are violent and ignorant people. I know i have to move i was just wondering about this particular issue.
Remember this isn't an accidental door slam from the wind like i said it was violent x 10.

Honestly in my opinion i was pretty calm after that because i'm sure a lot of people would have flipped out and ran out the door and started banging on their door to confront them about it.

06-12-2017, 08:43 PM

Then if these are reoccurring problems, document everything and contact management. Or better yet, put it all in writing and send a letter to management. Not much else you can do if you can't communicate and work this out with the neighbors.

Next time you are near them where she (or they) are talking like that or you are hearing arguing or noise issues hit the record on your phone and get some concrete proof of what is happening so you have something to back up your story.

06-12-2017, 09:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Corn-fused View Post

Then if these are reoccurring problems, document everything and contact management. Or better yet, put it all in writing and send a letter to management. Not much else you can do if you can't communicate and work this out with the neighbors.

Next time you are near them where she (or they) are talking like that or are you are hearing arguing or noise issues hit the record on your phone and get some concrete proof of what is happening so you have something to back up your story.

I agree. And if possible, try to get other neighbors to complain to management also. It appears that confronting them personally doesn't help and may even encourage them to take some kind of revenge on your car of something. Sorry you're stuck with neighbors like this.

06-12-2017, 09:27 PM

First, I will say that you could have picked a better time to approach her. Yes, it woke you up. Yes, you were upset/angry/annoyed. But she just had a fight with her spouse. Do you really think she was in a mindset to be sympathetic to your needs? No.

Next time something happens between you, you need to address it with them after everyone, including you, has calmed down.

And, as others have said- document, document, document.

06-12-2017, 09:32 PM

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Originally Posted by jaynarie View Post

First, I will say that you could have picked a better time to approach her. Yes, it woke you up. Yes, you were upset/angry/annoyed. But she just had a fight with her spouse. Do you really think she was in a mindset to be sympathetic to your needs? No.

Next time something happens between you, you need to address it with them after everyone, including you, has calmed down.

And, as others have said- document, document, document.

So i should show compassion and sympathy after previous harassment by them and no apologies by them? hmmm Also i wouldn't dare go to their door that's why it was perfect timing. She would of made up another fake story like i was tresspassing on her property or something even though she rents.

I don't care what their arguments are about they have no right to slam a door like that period. I don't need to have sympathy for someone who doesn't think of others themselves.

06-12-2017, 09:42 PM

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Originally Posted by eddie1278 View Post

So i should show compassion and sympathy after previous harassment by them and no apologies by them? hmmm Also i wouldn't dare go to their door that's why it was perfect timing. She would of made up another fake story like i was tresspassing on her property or something even though she rents.

I don't care what their arguments are about they have no right to slam a door like that period. I don't need to have sympathy for someone who doesn't think of others themselves.

You fail to see my point. You would get further when talking with them if they were calm and rational. It would benefit

you

to wait until later to discuss it. You poke an angry bear and they will attack you. She was angry when you approached her. You really thought she would rationally see your view? No. She lashed out as most people would. This is simple psychology.

06-12-2017, 09:47 PM

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Originally Posted by eddie1278 View Post

So i should show compassion and sympathy after previous harassment by them and no apologies by them? hmmm Also i wouldn't dare go to their door that's why it was perfect timing. She would of made up another fake story like i was tresspassing on her property or something even though she rents.

I don't care what their arguments are about they have no right to slam a door like that period. I don't need to have sympathy for someone who doesn't think of others themselves.

I don't see anywhere that anyone said anything about 'compassion' or 'sympathy'. That poster only stated that it is best to wait until things have calmed down a bit so everyone can communicate more 'rationally' and more like adults. There is a huge difference. There is no way you are going to get any cooperation out of anyone who is that p***** off, you included.

Not sure what answer you are looking for here or what you 'want' to hear but you have been given some very good sound advice. And, i would make sure to pick your battles carefully if I were you. You never know what people are capable of.

Trust me, I know what you are going through. I have new neighbors across the hall from me that I swear are spawn of the devil! But I forbid to attempt any communication directly with them because I don't trust anything that they would do if I did. I am doing it all around them with management, the police and the DEA.

06-12-2017, 10:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Corn-fused View Post

I don't see anywhere that anyone said anything about 'compassion' or 'sympathy'. That poster only stated that it is best to wait until things have calmed down a bit so everyone can communicate more 'rationally' and more like adults. There is a huge difference. There is no way you are going to get any cooperation out of anyone who is that p***** off, you included.

Not sure what answer you are looking for here or what you 'want' to hear but you have been given some very good sound advice. And, i would make sure to pick your battles carefully if I were you. You never know what people are capable of.

Trust me, I know what you are going through. I have new neighbors across the hall from me that I swear are spawn of the devil! But I forbid to attempt any communication directly with them because I don't trust anything that they would do if I did. I am doing it all around them with management, the police and the DEA.

Ok so compassion or sympathy might be the wrong words. Why should I think of them period when i was the one who was shook out of my sleep in a violent way? Why should i come to someone in a calm manner when they are not calm people themselves? Yes i should pick my battles because i don't know what someone is capable of just like they don't know what others are capable of when they constantly harass someone.

I'm not looking for any certain answers because it's done just seeing what others would have done. So to sum up what you and the other reply said...

I should have thought about them before myself with my heart beating out of my chest and shaking like a leaf. Got it. I should have thought ohh they are just having an argument i'll die from a heart attack and wait to approach them at a more convenient time for them.

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